Helping Children Make friends in Primary School

Mrs. Gail Mahoney | 19th November, 2015 Back to Blog

RBKIA is an educational facility that not only supports children in their academic growth, but also in their social and emotional well-being. Children are not only coming to school to be successful in their academics, but also in their emotional and social well-being. The teachers and staff at RBKIA place a strong emphasis on educating and nurturing the student as a whole child. A very important part of being a student at RBKIA is being successful in their social settings.

Every child is born with a need to attach, form bonds and have relationships with not only their families but with others. How a child goes about forming these relationships is an area where children need guidance and coaching. Children can start to develop real relationships and friendships starting as young as four and five years of age. When you see children forming these relationships and everything is running smoothly it is a fantastic feeling for the children along with the adults involved. However, just like any situation in life there are bumps that may and will occur.

As much as we would like to step in and help children make friends at RBKIA it is not a choice that we like to pursue. Instead it is most important that we give our students the tools on how to be successful in obtaining relationships and friendships on their own. Some children, especially younger primary school age children, need help developing social skills such as empathy, problem-solving, negotiating, cooperation and communication skills, before they are comfortable making friends. For example if we find that a Primary aged child at RBKIA does not seem to want to make friends, it’s important to try and get an understanding of what may be going on.

To develop and support student development of friendships at RBKIA we have researched and have decided to implement a myriad of techniques to ensure success for our students in this area of socialization. RBIA believes in modeling cooperative behavior and helping your child see the benefit to lending a helping hand can turn a chore into an opportunity for fun. For example, you could say "If we work together to clean up our classroom after using Playdough, we'll all be able to listen to the new book you borrowed from the library.” This creates an atmosphere of cooperative behavior and fosters children to learn how to work together, in return new relationships, friendships and bonds can be formed.

RBKIA understands that also simply having children mind their manners is way to promote healthy relationships between students. Sometimes all it takes for a child to make friends is a knowledge of simple etiquette. It's no secret that polite, respectful and friendly kids (and adults for that matter) are well-equipped to attract friends and develop solid relationships. Again modeling this as educators at our school is extremely important for the students. If the students do not see their leaders and role models working together, respectfully, cooperatively and engaging in positive activity the students will certainly tune into these behaviors. Therefore the staff are RBKIA continuously strive to ensure we have created a safe, secure, engaging and healthy learning environment for all of our students.